If you have a child that no longer wishes to spend time with your ex you are stuck and bound by the terms of that order. If you do want to change the custodial order, you’re going to have to file a motion to modify it with the court. The court will likely want to talk to your child and get their input. But, in the state of North Carolina, they cannot base their decision solely on what the child wishes. You will also want to be careful about what you say about your ex in front of the child. Your child may repeat this to the judge. If you have a child who no longer wishes to spend time with your ex it’s best to get an attorney on your side to help you follow the proper procedures.